Advice for a woman in her 20s

Blog post for a woman in her 20s. I want to say that. Even though the centuries, the decades may change, technology may or may or may not give us more access opportunity. Efficiencies. Going through our 20s as a woman is generally. Um. No, I don't want to say the same, but there are some main points. That generally occur during our 20s. In this society. Specifically in the United States and White dominated spaces countries. We are. Pushed out into the world, either in college or having to take some sort of vocational training, and really starting to shape ourselves, figure out who we are after we leave the home, or are no longer identifying with how our parents raised us or our our loved ones, our guardians raised us. Umm. We finally get to stand up for ourselves and explore and try so many different things. Some advice I would give myself. Being in my early 20s, maybe even late 20s. Now in 2023 would be to don't follow the crowd. I see a lot of women, young women, so on their social media, on the Netflix and binge watching, and I understand that there is sort of. Tribal, communal experience that we all get to share when we're all watching the same things, maybe experiencing the same things. And that's great to one extent. I would highly recommend to explore yourself, figure out what makes you you if you haven't had the opportunity or space. And it doesn't have to be meditation or yoga or any other trendy. Or healthy type thing. If you like to paint, if you like to jewelry beat. If you like to crochet, cook, bake, hike. I don't know, there's many different ways to. Um. Rediscover yourself. Be true to yourself. And um. Really understand the things that you enjoy, not just because your friends do or because you have been associated with certain clubs and communities. Really find out who. Who you are and not in a in a. Existential way, but just like. Who are you now versus who you were in high school? What is it that you want to explore and see yourself do? And it may be against, or it may be different than your friend group, so be willing to. To act on it and try it and and put yourself out there in a respectful, space safe way. But that would be my first advice. My second advice would be. Every not everything in moderation. I think it's great to go out and be wild and have fun safely, but for the most part. In moderation, I think we as a society are told so much that we can live on these extremes. We binge watch shows on end or we go to therapy and relive our past and just go deep in that rabbit hole. Or we go out all night and we get drunk. Like there's these extremes, there's these pendulums, and it's very hard and and it can be. It takes a lot of awareness and practice to be able to walk that middle line to be. In moderation. Um, I'm not saying don't go out, don't have fun, don't live your life. I just said to do that in my first advice. But I would say. Don't go to either extreme, don't not do anything, or just continue to do as you've been told or as others do, but also don't push yourself too far and just do Everything Everywhere and. Kind of go crazy. My recommendation would be to find that balance and that kind of goes again with you. Rediscovering who you are, refining those those values of yours. If you wanna go out, great, but how often do you wanna go out? Does it feel good to go out all the time? I know that they say, you know the 20s only come once. Well, every decade only comes once. You know you're only 21. Once you're only 20. Who wants so? That doesn't mean that we have to. Put ourselves in situations or, um, wake up. Then, you know, we've put ourselves in situations and then the next day we have this horrible stomachache. We've got, you know, stomach poisoning, food poisoning, or we have headaches and all sorts of things. So. I would say my second piece is in moderation or some sort of balance. My third piece is financial. And it relates to seeing all of yourself. So so far I've been just giving kind of general advice about have fun. Not too much or like in balance. And then my third piece is see all of yourself. So there are many facets to who we are. And my framework is based on four pillars, your body, your mind, your spirit and your heart. And each one of these pillars makes up. All of you. Your body deals with your nutrition, your movement, fitness, exercise, mobility and flexibility. Your mind deals with what you take in like books, education, what you say to yourself, the thoughts that you think. Your spirit is not necessarily religious. I am not a religious person, but it may so have to do with how you feel hopeful and faith and have some sort of faith in yourself and. Humanity. It could deal with meditation or energy work. I personally love Oracle cards. They're a great deal of inspiration and help me find my compass, my inner compass, your heart, dealing with any trauma. Generation or otherwise. Hurts in your life? Pain. So addressing each one of these pillars helps you paint this bigger picture of who you are and so. Tying it back to the finances, which is very much a body of mental it kind of touches on all four of these pillars because if. We're not taking care of ourselves financially, then we don't have access. To the life we want or other things that we would like to explore as a woman. And I firmly believe that a woman should always have her own account, her own money, her own independence, apart from family, friends, a partner. Stand on your own, having your job and being able to save. I love that this newer generations and and have all this access. There's so much more information now and so much more openness and awareness about finances and. Um, the importance and the how to and everything. So that would be my third advice. And my last advice would be. 2. Don't settle down too quickly. And I don't mean settling in a way of that's gonna be your life or the path that you walk forever, because it's not. It's more so just you're still figuring yourself out. So whoever you're with. And that may be romantic partner partners. Your family, your friends, your job, anything it will change. Continue to be open to change. Know that whatever you're doing now, if you're not enjoying the job or the people or whoever. Things will continue to change as long as you continue to bring awareness to yourself. See all the things that make up who you are and that you enjoy. Continue to explore yourself safely and respectfully. And be open. Be open that your job, the friends, maybe that you do or don't like all of the things that you now know will change. And for the better or or not for the worse, but for for the good change is uncomfortable, but. Um, I really believe. That. When we look back, as they always say, vision, looking back, our vision is always 2020. And so there are things that maybe we don't wish will happen the way in a certain way. But as long as we're honest with ourselves and we are treating others with respect as much as we can and. Treating ourselves with respect first and first and foremost. Then, regardless of the change, changes that will happen. they will be for our for our best they will be for our highest good so