Making decisions in your best interest

When I was thinking about changing jobs, going back to school, or feeling stuck in relationships, I realized that any decision I made was based on my level of interest and the level of effort for that thing.

For example, there were many times that I wanted to change jobs.

I wanted more money to pay off my student debt. I wanted to build more proficiency in a certain skill. I wanted a certain schedule or work-setting experience.

No matter what I was seeking, I started to ask myself, so many questions.

Do I need to go back to school? If I go back to school, what would I study? What degree would be the most helpful for the industry or job I’m seeking? How would I juggle work and school? Would I have to get a different job so that I could prioritize school? How would I pay for school? Could I get a job in that industry without going to school?

In relationships, if you’re not sure about a friend or romantic partner, ask yourself:

• How do I feel about this person? What are some ways that we bring out our authentic selves?

• Most of the time, how does this person affect me? Is there more struggle or contentment?

• Can I be all of myself when I’m with them? Do I feel safe?

Recognize that you won't know all the things, all the pieces in order to make that decision, first start with where you are, how you’re feeling and what you’d like to feel.

So there are two main pieces when making decisions.

Any decision we make in life is going to affect both our inner and outer worlds. If we start a business, leave a job, or redefine relationships, it’s not just a change in title or no longer having that person in our lives, a new version of ourselves is being born.

1) Logistics

What would it take to get a new job? Or redefine a relationship?

Would you need money saved up in order to feel comfortable leaving a job or going back to school? Would you need to stop following this person on socials?

2) Emotions

Know yourself, whatever feelings you have about the situation or person, don’t shy away from them.

Is the work environment toxic? Or you’ve outgrown your role? Is the relationship serving you? How so?

In recognizing both the what (emotions) and the how (logistics), you’ll be able to take small meaningful steps towards your next chapter.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments ⤵